Men Are Like Waffles Women Are Like Spaghetti is a book co-authored by Bill & Pam Farrel that utilizes a food analogy to compare psychological compartmentalization and connectedness. Often when folks come to talk to me, they are processing very complex situations that have typically been evolving over several days or weeks. After listening to their spaghettified information, I’ll start to work with the person to “waffle-ize” the situation. I view this as the process of sorting out the interconnectedness and emotion in order to define the parameters of response and action.
If you are more spaghetti than waffle, this is also a good paradigm to utilize when formulating your communications with others. Getting ready to meet with the principal? Take some time to sort your spaghetti into waffle boxes before you approach the conversation. I also use this frame in my written communications. I’ll utilize bold headers, bullet points, tables, and colored text to help sort the information I wish to share with the readers.
So if we are engaged in a discussion and I request that we “waffle-ize the spaghetti,” I am asking you to bullet point the critical messages.